What is the both approach to get my Ex Hubby to get together without sounding pushy?

First of all, don't worry so much what other people (family, friends, etc) think. If you want him back, go for it. It this turns out to be something that you both want, public opinion will die down. Secondly, you might consider calling him to apologize to him. Let him know that you now understand and respect his need for space/time to cool down. Let him know that you miss and still value the friendship you all had and don't want to lose it. Then agree to give him his space. Then call him up in 2 or 3 weeks and try to make plans for coffee. Be willing to accept whatever response he gives you. Good luck to you.